23 Things That Love Is

Valentine’s Day is over. That means all those advertisements for roses and chocolate-covered strawberries and pendants are over, too. At least until next year.

What’s the main message in those advertisements? “If you love your spouse or significant other, you’ll purchase them our special item.”

I have no problem with that. Luella and I gift each other regularly with romantic gestures.

But those gifts are signs of our affection for one another; they are not love.

So what is love? There is certainly no shortage of searching for it or attempts to define it.

For those who believe in Jesus, we don’t need to search any further than the Bible. The Scriptures are the timeless source of truth, written by the God who is by very definition love (1 John 4:8).

So today, I want to take a break from our series on words and think about love. Although, if you pay attention to what you’re about to read, nearly everything applies to the words you speak.

Below are 23 biblical applications of how to love your spouse, your child, your neighbor, or anyone else God has put into your life.

Don’t try to memorize or apply all of them at once! Instead, just focus on one or two that the Holy Spirit convicts you of.

Print this list off. Save it to your phone. Come back to it regularly and honestly examine your words and actions. The new morning mercies of Jesus forgives your failures, and his grace empowers you to grow in areas of weakness.

You have been welcomed into eternity by the God of Love, and he welcomes you right here, right now to love others in the same way.

God bless

Paul Tripp

1. LOVE IS being willing to have your life complicated by the needs and struggles of others without impatience or anger.

2. LOVE IS actively fighting the temptation to be critical and judgmental toward another while looking for ways to encourage and praise.

3. LOVE IS making a daily commitment to resist the needless moments of conflict that come from pointing out and responding to minor offenses.

4. LOVE IS being lovingly honest and humbly approachable in times of misunderstanding.

5. LOVE IS being more committed to unity and understanding than you are to winning, accusing, or being right.

6. LOVE IS a making a daily commitment to admit your sin, weakness, and failure and to resist the temptation to offer an excuse or shift the blame.

7. LOVE IS being willing, when confronted by another, to examine your heart rather than rising to your defense or shifting the focus.

8. LOVE IS making a daily commitment to grow in love so that the love you offer to another is increasingly selfless, mature, and patient.

9. LOVE IS being unwilling to do what is wrong when you have been wronged, but looking for concrete and specific ways to overcome evil with good.

10. LOVE IS being a good student of another, looking for their physical, emotional, and spiritual needs so that in some way you can remove the burden, support them as they carry it, or encourage them along the way.

11. LOVE IS being willing to invest the time necessary to discuss, examine, and understand the relational problems you face, staying on task until the problem is removed or you have agreed upon a strategy of response.

12. LOVE IS being willing to always ask for forgiveness and always being committed to grant forgiveness when it is requested.

13. LOVE IS recognizing the high value of trust in a relationship and being faithful to your promises and true to your word.

14. LOVE IS speaking kindly and gently, even in moments of disagreement, refusing to attack the other person’s character or assault their intelligence.

15. LOVE IS being unwilling to flatter, lie, manipulate, or deceive in any way in order to co-opt the other person into giving you what you want or doing something your way.

16. LOVE IS being unwilling to ask another person to be the source of your identity, meaning, and purpose, or inner sense of well-being, while refusing to be the source of theirs.

17. LOVE IS the willingness to have less free time, less sleep, and a busier schedule in order to be faithful to what God has called you to be and to do as a spouse, parent, neighbor, etc.

18. LOVE IS a commitment to say no to selfish instincts and to do everything that is within your ability to promote real unity, functional understanding, and active love in your relationships.

19. LOVE IS staying faithful to your commitment to treat another with appreciation, respect, and grace, even in moments when the other person doesn’t seem deserving or is unwilling to reciprocate.

20. LOVE IS the willingness to make regular and costly sacrifices for the sake of a relationship without asking for anything in return or using your sacrifices to place the other person in your debt.

21. LOVE IS being unwilling to make any personal decision or choice that would harm a relationship, hurt the other person, or weaken the bond of trust between you.

22. LOVE IS refusing to be self-focused or demanding, but instead looking for specific ways to serve, support, and encourage, even when you are busy or tired.

23. LOVE IS daily admitting to yourself, the other person, and God that you are unable to be driven by a cruciform love without God’s protecting, providing, forgiving, rescuing, and delivering grace.

23 Things That Love Is

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